Choose your battles

"Not all battles are meant to be fought" says my Mommyta, when were talking about her life as a PhD student in the University of the Philippines.

A little context about my Mommyta, she's a registered Psychometrician and Guidance Counselor with Masters in Psychology and Counseling. She's a mom of three girls (my cousins), a wife to her amazing husband, the eldest kid, and my tita. She's basically everything rolled into one fluffy human. 

Going back, I was feeling down and decided to go home and have some conversation with her. The conversation led me to asking how her studies was and her week in general. She replied with happiness and laughter that she was challenged with what's on her plate right now. Meetings, counselings, school and many more. 

When it was my turn to talk about my week. I shared how anxious I was and that my triggers are reminding me of the parts that needed healing and compassion. I shared how overwhelming October was. 

She smiled and said, "Not all battles are yours  to fight. Choose which battle deserves your attention and discard the rest." And that made me think of my behaviour this year. She's right. I need to filter the things that deserves my attention. 

It goes well with this saying, "Ships don't sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.”

-E.