Why People Tend to Rush Love and Why We Shouldn’t

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I never really am an expert when it comes to relationships and most especially in love. But I have my fair share of heartbreaks and experiences that makes me qualified to talk about it in this blog.

I was mindlessly scrolling on Facebook. Another day of minding my own business when I scrolled past some posts shared by my friends.. The post goes like this “ wala kay uyab” or something closer to any post that indicates that a person is single and is looking for attention or affection. 

It’s not like I have something against them looking for love and their companion but personally, posting all this stuff on socmed makes you a prey to our fellow narcissists. You see, narcissists prey on the weak. Yes, the weaklings and the vulnerable. I hate to break it to you and most importantly, I hate to be the bearer of the bad news, but you honey, is making yourself available to more hurt and betrayal. 

Well, I have to admit, I’m not perfect. I’ve also posted some stuff before in my teenage years. I was seeking sympathy and attention. Gaining any of the two satisfies me and shuts me up. 

Now that I’ve matured. I realized how awkward it was and how uncool it was. Seeking attention online, sharing intimate conversations and moments online attracts more evil eyes. Everything I post is somewhat filtered to the maximum filter available in my socmed. 

Anyways, going back to the topic of why people rush love and why we shouldn't. I believe there’s a lack within ourselves that we all must address. Call me hypocrite or not, but love can be seen everywhere. I understand how different it feels when you have someone to share your love with. Someone to be intimate with. To share your thoughts without the fear of being judged. To be loved and loved back. 

Unfortunately, I learned my lesson the hard way. At an early age, life slapped me with the reality of love. There’s going to be trouble in paradise and one way or another, one will eventually back out. Either you or the other party will do each other dirty. 

Rushing love is a preposterous idea. And including the thought of you'll miss the person you're meant to be with. Honey, if it's possible, can you dodge a bullet for me? Or how about take a bullet for me? 

 Everyone you see is a potential, and we don't fall in love with a potential. No, we don't do that here, darling.  I want you to stop projecting your made up man to this potential and try to see reality in a different angle and perspective. 

The reason why I don't want to rush love is because it's exhausting. Forcing someone to love you back is emotionally and mentally exhausting and draining. I've been there and I've done that. Trust me, my former potential led me to depression. It has taken a toll on my mental health. 

We cannot force connection, love, and most importantly, we can't force someone to love us back. 

I hope this makes sense. If not, well, do I give a fuck?

-E.







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