The Tender Weight of Empathy

Empathy: the superpower nobody warns you about.

They say it’s the key to a fulfilled life. Honestly? I don’t know who “they” are — I probably made that up. But it sounds poetic, doesn’t it?

Empathy is both a blessing and a curse. A blessing, because it allows you to truly understand others — to feel their pain, to be the light in their dark and narrow tunnel. But it’s also a curse, because people will take advantage of that light. And that, my friend, is exhausting.

Having a soft heart can be a burden. It makes you a magnet for narcissists — their favorite kind of person. Why? Because you’re easy to manipulate. Easy to control. They’ll drain your energy, siphon your light to fill their own emptiness, and leave you hollow.

Speaking from experience, this year has been one of the most draining I’ve ever had. Many of us were betrayed. Our spirits bruised. Mine especially. I’ve always been the go-to friend — the advisor, the comforter, the one who listens when everything falls apart. And while I don’t mind being that person, it becomes overwhelming when every interaction feels like an emotional ambush. You know what I mean — that vampire energy.

There was one friend I thought was different. I was wrong. Eventually, I had to cut them off to protect my peace. No matter how much light I tried to bring, their darkness was too consuming. I remain civil, but I’ve drawn a line. I no longer want to be part of their world.

Another friend once told me, “Say no to what doesn’t serve you.” And they were right. That’s why I’ve become intentional about setting boundaries.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: protect your energy. Be selective with your circle. Not everyone deserves access to your light. Energy vampires are real — and they’re everywhere.

So here’s the truth: not everyone who smiles at you deserves a seat at your table. 

Empathy is powerful — but without boundaries, it’s self-destruction dressed as kindness. Keep your circle sacred. Protect your peace. Because your light is rare, and energy vampires? They’ll drain it without blinking.

E.